An analysis: Sex on the first date?

Okay, let's be truthful. There's a heck of a lot of single men who hope for that lucky strike, especially if the guy's done nothing but sit holding a remote for the past six months. But most women determine to stick by the general dating rule- if you have sex on the first date, there probably won't be another date.

I say probably because, sometimes, if the sex is really good, there could be another date, of similar ilk. Following the no-sex-right-away rule also assumes both parties are looking for an ongoing situation, a date or a relationship or whatever passes for one these days. And every single out on safari in the dating jungle these days knows that may not necessarily be where it's at- for either sex.

So, for those who know, sex on a first date can actually be hotter than a car hood on an August day. Reckless, yes, not smart, yes, immature, maybe, but, hey, it can also be very stimulating, erotic, exciting and gap-fillingly satisfying.

Of course, such an encounter can often, but not always, mean regrets later, so it's not something you should get into if you're feeling vulnerable or want to invest your emotions in that person.

Best to look at it as a one-off, impetuous, purely physical and maybe out-of-character encounter that may never occur again -- which in itself can add quite a thrilling edge.
Like most advice givers, Dennie Hughes, relationships columnist for USA Weekend Magazine (USAweekend.com), is adamant that you should never have sex on a first date.

First, there's the feeling of being used, especially for women, even if there is a second date. And men often hold a double standard: If he really likes her, he can actually feel disappointed she was so quick to hit the sheets."

She also points out the safety factor- that having sex on a first date presumably means being totally alone with someone you don't really know.

According to a recent poll by Primetime Live, 29% of Americans admitted they did have sex on the first date and almost as many have had an "unexpected sexual encounter with someone new."

The poll, called A Peek Beneath the Sheets, was a random telephone survey of over 1,500 adults, and was conducted as the basis for an exclusive report on sexual attitudes and behaviour for a program.

Canada had one of the highest percentages in the world of one-night stands, with 52% of adults stating they'd had one. Sex on the first date and one-night stands. Good grief. Are we that desperate for sex? Don't answer that. Article here.